Tarot for Relationships

Lately I have desperately pondered, spent my nights awake and I wonder what I could have done in another way, to make you stay?

Love me, love me, say that you love me….fool me fool me go on and fool me….i can’t care ‘bout anything but youuuuuuuu.

Bloody love that song.

Anyway, I think we have all lost count of how many nights we’ve spent lying awake thinking, ending up lost in confusion about people we love, want to love or have lost or let go.

And if it’s keeping me awake there is only one thing (cheaper than therapy) that will help.

Sling some cards and journal it out of my brain.

Sometimes it’s issues in my marriage, concern for a friend, my estranged parents situation or parenting my children. I sometimes need the counsel of my cards.

But this might surprise you.

Never have I ever asked the cards to ‘show me what they’re thinking or feeling or going to do’. My ethics just won’t allow it.

Sadly some readers don’t actually give any fucks and read with wild abandon on anything that takes their fancy.

Just go search #freetarotreadings on TikTok and you’ll get the idea.

3 of cups - oh there’s a third party involved!

Knight of cups - you’re gonna pull at this party!

The Tower - stay indoors and don’t do anything

#notalltarotreaders

Whilst I don’t think my take on Tarot readings for relationships is unique.

Ethical readers are in the minority.

I want to give you some insight into my approach.

Relationship readings are a great way to give yourself space and processing time to centre yourself, get your power back and decide on some right action.

My reading style leans towards personal development (less predictive) so you can bring the best of you to any relationship and commit to doing the irl work it takes to initiate and maintain meaningful relationships.

Today I share my approach to relationship readings to give you a feel for my ethics.

- I read for any and all relationships – spouse, children, parents, siblings, friends, work people. I’ll even read your cards based on a past relationship. But the focus is always on YOU.

- I am inclusive – I make no assumptions or judgments about the health or make-up of your relationships, it’s helpful to know if you’re estranged from a parent for example or that you are in a polyamorous relationship. So I can add better context to the reading and therefore it will resonate and be helpful to you. PS - I am cis-het and in a monogamous relationship - but I read tarot for a rainbow of relationships.

- Focus – as I said. Readings will always be centered on YOU – I don’t pry into the energy or stories of another.

- My opinion will stay out of the reading, you will receive the meaning of the card, invitations to think about how the meaning relates to you or your situation, questions to ponder based off of the card and so on. If your reading is in person with me, we might venture into viable options, what you would like to happen and steps you could take - I’m literally a Coach I CANNOT HELP MYSELF.

- What we won’t be doing:

o   Asking questions like - Do they still think about me/ want me/ regret what happened - that’s centering them. Gonna uno reverse this one. Do you have regrets? Are you still holding onto feelings, ideas about them? etc.

o   Have they met someone new/ moved on - why do you care?

o   Are they cheating on me/ was there a relationship overlap. Red Flag - but let’s explore why you want to know, how you would feel with this information, what it would change, what you’d do differently and so on.

o   I don’t use twin flames or soul mate narratives – I find it causes more harm than good because if you believe you have a soul contract with someone it can make you more inclined to overlook or put up with red flags and harmful behavior.

o   Will I be on my own forever/ Will I ever find love. Only you can answer this question!

o   Are they the one? YOU are the one….

- Someone else being present for your reading – I’m not a fan. We can get quite deep - what seems like a ‘fun, read my tarot moment’ quickly turns into a therapeutic space holding exploration of the shadow.

- Have I read for couples before? Yes, but this is fully informed and consented to beforehand. With a safeword for when someone needs to exit!

- Boundaries – I won’t predict pregnancies/ if they will propose/ if a love interest is coupled.

- I will maintain confidentiality and never disclose the content of your reading in a way that links it to you.

- I won’t tell you what to do to resolve conflict, about ways to improve or even end relationships. I will hold space, read the cards and you will have the time to process.

- I don’t upsell magical services. I won’t offer a cord cutting, love spell or curse removal. Yes people actually do this. Not me. I am not that person.

Having said all this, I hope you can see - Tarot is a great tool for self-reflection when it comes to situations that arise in relationships.

What you have to bring to a relationship. How you are showing up for the other person. Checking in on the health of your relationship and a genuine desire to foster a deeper connection.

Here are some questions I have been known sling cards on:

• How can I be a better [parent/ insert relationship]?

• What is the leading energy within this relationship?

• How can I open up to invite more connection into my life?

• What does this relationship need?

• Remind me why I’m a fabulous catch!

• Why am I feeling resistance to this new relationship?

• How can I prepare myself now for a future relationship?

• What does our relationship need more of?

• What is this relationship teaching me?

• Why it’s good they’re gone…

• What has changed in this relationship?

• How can I move on with a broken heart?

Of course these questions are just the appetiser – most readings are organic and we build our conversation one card, thought or insight at a time.

If you’ve got someone on your mind – I’d love to sling some cards and see where your reading leads.

Show yourself some love and book a reading today!